By Don A. Blackerby, Ph.D.
A mother and her 11 year old son came to Colorado from St. Louis in order for me to do some Academic Consulting with him. His grades were low in all the primary academic subjects and he had many of the symptoms of Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD). Since his mother did not want to medicate him for the ADD symptoms she brought him to me for alternative treatments.
After my assessment, it became very obvious that his learning strategies were very inefficient and ineffective. He was basically an auditory learner and would simply repeat things over and over as a way to learn them. This is not a good way to learn academic subjectsit is very boring and time consuming and just does not work very well. I taught him how to become a visual learner, which is a more interesting and faster way to learn.
After learning the new learning strategies, most students interest and motivation will start to increase. This student vehemently declared that he just didn't like school and did not want to go back (he was on spring break). I decided to use EFT on this emotional block.
He declared that his dislike for school on an intensity scale of 0-10 was a 10. The set-up was Even though I dislike school and don't want to go back on Monday I totally and completely accept myself. After the tapping his intensity only dropped to a 9. Even though I still have some remaining dislike for school and do not want to go back on Monday, I.. His SUDS dropped to a 5, but then he changed his mind to a 7. I sensed that he did not want the tapping to work, so I gave him a break.
After he came back, I decided to get much more specific by asking him the question, What specifically do you not like about going to school? His reply was swift and firm My PE teacher yells at us all the time and my math teacher gets mad at me and John (not real name) who sits next to me is always talking and moving around and he gets me in trouble. Taking them one at a time the set-ups were:
Even though my PE teacher yells at us, I totally and completely accept myself and forgive him.
Even though my math teacher gets mad at me, I know it has more to do with him than me, and I totally and deeply accept myself and forgive him for losing control.
Even though John gets me into trouble, I forgive him and totally and completely accept myself.
Being more specific helped bring his intensity down and then I decided to use EFT to install a more empowering belief. After talking to him about how much he had learned in his visit with me, I asked him what he thought would be a better belief to have about school which would help make school more successful and fun. He decided on With the new learning strategies I have learned, I can make school as easy and fun as I want it to be. He tapped each of the points as he repeated the new belief over and over. The relief in his voice and face was very evident.
After another break, his mother wanted me to help him with some of his ADD symptoms. She reported that he got frustrated easily and would then get angry at her when she wanted to check his homework. Set-up-- Even though I get frustrated and mad at my mother when she checks my homework, I totally and completely accept myself and forgive my mother.
She also reported that he sometimes had a lack of focus, was very hyperactive much of the time, would get bored doing his homework, and was very obsessivewhich would drive everybody around him crazy because he would talk incessantly about it. Most of these are symptoms of ADD.
By this time, he was really getting into it and his energy level was coming up and his attitude was taking a definite swing toward the positive and upbeat. I had him tap on each of the issues separately until they all dropped to a 1-2. After each one, I asked him how he would like to act and believe and when we would come up with a new belief, we would tap all the points while repeating the new belief.
I did some further integration work with him and then future paced the new beliefs into the upcoming school days. I have not received a long term report, since I just saw him last week, but all of my tests I ran in the office indicated a successful visit.
Don A. Blackerby, Ph.D.
Monday, August 6, 2007
Friday, August 3, 2007
Done by EFT Newcomers
Here are are two interesting cases...both done by EFT newcomers.
The first case involves "Tony" who used EFT for depression and tachycardia. He achieved improvements on both conditions....AND....discovered that a life-long issue with shyness simply disappeared. I have no explanation for this. I can only speculate that using EFT for depression collapsed some issues behind the scenes that contributed to both depression and shyness. Fortunately, we don't always have to know why. Sometimes we just have to settle for the results.
The second case was performed by Debra Trojan for a pregnant lady who was about to faint in an electronics store. Please note how EFT brought relief even though the lady's disbelief in the process was clearly evident (she called it a distraction). This case is very useful to show those who think EFT is merely a placebo. It worked splendidly even though the client had no belief in it and thus "explained it away" as a distraction.
***
I wanted to let you know of an interesting, unexpected result of EFT from your beginning course (the videos, by the way, are excellent--everything is unusually well explained, and the sound and image are excellent).
I have been in therapy for many years (Reichian, Primal) and have been going through a rough period the past two years since having a couple of heart attacks, which have left me with intermittent tachycardia. About two months ago, some old feelings around my dad came up and I was feeling very depressed. To make a long story short, a few days of EFT lifted the depression and I started feeling much better. Later, with the help of one of your therapists, I used it to reduce the tachycardia.
But the unexpected benefit has been the disappearance of life-long shyness! I wasn't even thinking of it as a problem, since it has been part of the fabric of my life as long as I remember. But now, when I am out walking my dog, or shopping, I easily (and I do mean easily and naturally) fall into conversation with complete strangers. It is as if a transparent wall that kept me apart from others has now dissolved. I have not had problems with contact with people once I get to know them, but just shyness with strangers.
Now it is gone!
If I happen to say hello to someone who does not feel like talking, I just let it go, whereas in the past my feelings would have been hurt. Now the process of meeting new people is so appealing that I look forward to it.
While before I hated 'small talk', I now enjoy it.
Tony
***
By Debra Trojan
I was quite startled by this experience, especially since Im just a beginner with EFT. (Ive only read the manual and website and then used it on a couple of family members and friends.)
I was at an electronics store, waiting at the service counter when a stranger called out to me. I turned around and saw a woman sitting on the floor looking as if she was going to pass out. I knelt down beside her and asked her what was wrong. She told me she was pregnant and that she was about to faint. She said she wanted someone to know this before she fainted so that no one would freak out when they saw her lying there.
I asked the staff to get her some water. In an attempt to comfort her, I told her not to worry; everything would be fine. However, my words didnt seem to phase her; she turned white and began to panic. She was sweating profusely and looked scared to death. So much so, that I began to panic; I didnt know what to do. I had never been in this kind of situation before.
Then, I thought of EFT. I told her that I wanted to try something on her that I thought might help and that it was going to seem silly but that she should just go along with it because it might really help her. Before she could say anything, I started tapping with the set-up:
"Even though I feel like Im oing to faint, I deeply and completely love and accept myself."
She whispered the phrase while following my lead with the tapping. We got through the first sequence; then the 9 gamut. As I was starting the finishing sequence, she abruptly stopped and said "Oh its a distraction." (That was my first sign that it was working.) I told her that we were almost through and that she should continue to follow my lead; it would be just another minute and we would be finished. She indulged me and a minute later she was telling me that she was fine.
Please note: She didnt ay that she was feeling better; she said she was "fine." I said, "Are you sure; do you want me to walk you to your car." She responded: "No, thats not necessary; Im 100 percent!" She got right up and thanked me and was on her way.
Boy did I feel like a magician or what?
Debra Trojan
The first case involves "Tony" who used EFT for depression and tachycardia. He achieved improvements on both conditions....AND....discovered that a life-long issue with shyness simply disappeared. I have no explanation for this. I can only speculate that using EFT for depression collapsed some issues behind the scenes that contributed to both depression and shyness. Fortunately, we don't always have to know why. Sometimes we just have to settle for the results.
The second case was performed by Debra Trojan for a pregnant lady who was about to faint in an electronics store. Please note how EFT brought relief even though the lady's disbelief in the process was clearly evident (she called it a distraction). This case is very useful to show those who think EFT is merely a placebo. It worked splendidly even though the client had no belief in it and thus "explained it away" as a distraction.
***
I wanted to let you know of an interesting, unexpected result of EFT from your beginning course (the videos, by the way, are excellent--everything is unusually well explained, and the sound and image are excellent).
I have been in therapy for many years (Reichian, Primal) and have been going through a rough period the past two years since having a couple of heart attacks, which have left me with intermittent tachycardia. About two months ago, some old feelings around my dad came up and I was feeling very depressed. To make a long story short, a few days of EFT lifted the depression and I started feeling much better. Later, with the help of one of your therapists, I used it to reduce the tachycardia.
But the unexpected benefit has been the disappearance of life-long shyness! I wasn't even thinking of it as a problem, since it has been part of the fabric of my life as long as I remember. But now, when I am out walking my dog, or shopping, I easily (and I do mean easily and naturally) fall into conversation with complete strangers. It is as if a transparent wall that kept me apart from others has now dissolved. I have not had problems with contact with people once I get to know them, but just shyness with strangers.
Now it is gone!
If I happen to say hello to someone who does not feel like talking, I just let it go, whereas in the past my feelings would have been hurt. Now the process of meeting new people is so appealing that I look forward to it.
While before I hated 'small talk', I now enjoy it.
Tony
***
By Debra Trojan
I was quite startled by this experience, especially since Im just a beginner with EFT. (Ive only read the manual and website and then used it on a couple of family members and friends.)
I was at an electronics store, waiting at the service counter when a stranger called out to me. I turned around and saw a woman sitting on the floor looking as if she was going to pass out. I knelt down beside her and asked her what was wrong. She told me she was pregnant and that she was about to faint. She said she wanted someone to know this before she fainted so that no one would freak out when they saw her lying there.
I asked the staff to get her some water. In an attempt to comfort her, I told her not to worry; everything would be fine. However, my words didnt seem to phase her; she turned white and began to panic. She was sweating profusely and looked scared to death. So much so, that I began to panic; I didnt know what to do. I had never been in this kind of situation before.
Then, I thought of EFT. I told her that I wanted to try something on her that I thought might help and that it was going to seem silly but that she should just go along with it because it might really help her. Before she could say anything, I started tapping with the set-up:
"Even though I feel like Im oing to faint, I deeply and completely love and accept myself."
She whispered the phrase while following my lead with the tapping. We got through the first sequence; then the 9 gamut. As I was starting the finishing sequence, she abruptly stopped and said "Oh its a distraction." (That was my first sign that it was working.) I told her that we were almost through and that she should continue to follow my lead; it would be just another minute and we would be finished. She indulged me and a minute later she was telling me that she was fine.
Please note: She didnt ay that she was feeling better; she said she was "fine." I said, "Are you sure; do you want me to walk you to your car." She responded: "No, thats not necessary; Im 100 percent!" She got right up and thanked me and was on her way.
Boy did I feel like a magician or what?
Debra Trojan
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